There will always be some aspect of life that doesn’t get the attention it needs. Things that stay on “the back burner”. Finishing a book, organizing the hall closet, exercise, etc. If you’re normal, you have plenty of projects that you can’t get to. I know I do!
Recently, something very important has made its way to that position of low priority and attention. We haven’t been able to give it the time and focus it deserves.
It’s our marriage.
So many demands – like piles of dishes, cooking, laundry, a crying baby, work, sleep – were all taking our time. None of them seemed like something that could be ignored, so “us time” got pushed out. To the back burner. Honestly, it’s just one of those seasons where time with my husband is hard to come by. And we were desperately struggling from the lack of time together.
So this Sunday afternoon, we did something that should drive every clean-freak, organized, get-everything-done, don’t-rest-until-it’s finished kind of person crazy. We walked out on the huge piles of laundry and dishes (probably the biggest we have ever had!) and chose to sit on the couch in our pjs and watch a movie together. I’ll admit it was a bit hard to completely focus – the kitchen was a disaster and I had no idea if Ben would have clean clothes for work the next day. But for that afternoon, all the things that seemed so important just had to move to the back burner. Spending time together was the biggest priority.
What about you?
Is your marriage getting all the attention and effort it deserves? What is something in your life that can be dealt with later so you can focus on your marriage for a bit?
Remember that there are always tasks that won’t be completed, and that’s okay. Sometimes there aren’t enough hours in the day. Just make sure you have your priorities in the right order. It won’t matter if your list is checked off when your heart is empty. Keep your marriage off the back burner!