When The Wind Blows…

When the Wind Blows... Putting down roots in your marriage during hard times. realmarriedlife.comMarriage.  It’s different than I thought it would be.  It’s way better than I expected!  But in a way that is more full and rich – certainly not easier or less work.  Marriage can be hard.

Somehow in my early 20s, I pictured marriage as a lifelong slumber party. Fun with your best friend always by your side. It can be at times, but let’s face it [Read more…]

Dear New Mom…

Need some encouragement?  Must read advice for a new momI had a reality check yesterday morning.  It was preceded by a quite a display of immaturity and frustration that I’m shamed to admit.  It was one of those moments where I just lost it – lost my patience, my composure, my focus.  After 45 minutes of Elliot screaming at the TOP OF HER LUNGS, I decided to join her – raising my own voice and shedding plenty of tears.

This wasn’t the first reality check I’ve had [Read more…]

Am I A Good Wife?

Reminders about what actually makes us a good spouse | Marriage thoughts from realmarriedlife.comEarly this morning, Ben and I had such a sweet time talking – coffee for him, hot tea for me.  We were reminiscing, sharing funny thoughts. . . it was one of those great mornings together before we rushed off to start the day.  As we were talking, Ben told me I was a good wife.  What a wonderfully sweet thing to say.

It should have put a smile on my face to receive such a compliment from him – the only qualified judge of that.  But it didn’t.  I started to tear up and told him I didn’t believe him.  And I really didn’t.  I just felt guilty.  I told him of all the things around the house I hadn’t finished, the chores I was behind on, the things I hadn’t accomplished, the lack of time I had to focus on doing stuff for him – all qualifying me as a “bad wife.”

Have you ever felt like that?  That your success or failure all depends on [Read more…]

Lessons Learned No Other Way

Getting through the tough seasons in your marriage by treasuring the lessons learned togetherThe last couple of months, Ben and I have felt like we’re moving through life and everything is just happening to us.  Do you know what I mean?  It feels like there’s way too much going on and too little that we’re in control of.  Knowing us, our normal life is fairly structured, planned, and has down time when we need it.  It’s predictable and we like it.  But to be honest, 2014 has been tough.  Not planned, not predictable, and lots to worry about.

But just over the last couple of weeks, [Read more…]

How To Treat Your Husband in Public

Mistakes you may be making in how you speak about your husband to others and in front of himMen crave respect.  He desperately needs to know that you are proud of who he is, and that you think he is honorable and respectable.  The way you talk about him reflects on him.  Both in front of him and behind his back.

While I recognize this is a problem for both husbands and wives, I’d like to address wives in this article.  So here are a few ways you can quickly ruin your relationship with your husband and a few things I’ve learned about treating my husband in public: [Read more…]