Replacing Entitlement

ReplacementHonesty from a wife and mom's struggles.Playing with our 12 month old, I can count on one thing: Entitlement.  It doesn’t matter how exciting/age-appropriate/expensive the toy in her hand may be, whatever I’m holding (my spoon/paper/cup) is more attractive.  And if she’s denied, a mini-tantrum may follow – complete with squinted face and flapping arms.

When I’m in good humor, it makes me chuckle. But most times [Read more…]

Replacing Anger

Series from RMLThis last year, I’ve been angry.  Really angry.

But it’s not new – as a child, I struggled with a temper. I was described as the strong-willed one – I’m sure my parents felt their own anger trying to raise a “wild child.”  And now with so many things I can’t control, this sin of anger has returned for me to conquer once again. [Read more…]

Replacing jealousy

jealousyThe other day, we were driving home and I was sitting in the back seat as usual, distracting Elliot and pulling her hands away from scratching, just praying we could make it home before an inevitable meltdown.  And we passed a crew of moms with jogging strollers. They looked like Barbie moms – walking their sweet babes around with flawless hair in coordinated workout attire enjoying the sunshine.  And I couldn’t help but compare my life with a glimpse of theirs.  [Read more…]

Necessary Replacements

Series from RMLI’m embarking on a new season of blogging for a short while.  It’s going to be tough.  And different from my norm.  It’s going to be completely from my personal life!  I really like posting about marriage tips and interviews on here, partially because it’s comfortable and uplifting.  (Which I will still continue – I have to finish up that Submission Series, even though summer is officially over!…better late than never.)  However, I’m trying something new,  I’m preparing to share my struggles and sins that I’m uncovering in this life phase.  I’m calling it Necessary Replacements…What I’m replacing in my life.

It’s for a few reasons, really… [Read more…]

Outward Submission, Inward Rebellion

Submission series from realmarriedlife.com | Interviews, stories, and ways to enjoy your role as a wife.The Submission Series continues!  It is a privilege to share an incredible article with you from one of my dear friends and mentors, Darby.  I have spent many hours watching her parent, learning from her experiences, and enjoying her family.  She is a dedicated (and busy!) mom of five and marriage blogger.  She writes about her mistakes in an honest way and loves to help wives pray for their husbands. You can check out her blog and book at darbydugger.com.

You can read part two written by my sister about following when you are a natural leader.  And check out part one with 5 practical ways to submit from my friend Jenny. [Read more…]

Submitting When You Are A Natural Leader – Pt 2

Submission series from realmarriedlife.com | Interviews, stories, and ways to enjoy your role as a wife.I have loved collecting stories about what it means to be a submissive wife this summer!  This is part two of the series.  Last time, Jenny gave 5 ways to submit to your husband that reflect the Biblical model.  This week, I’ve asked my older sister Ashley to share.  As adults we are great friends and love to spend time together!  But I still sing my sad song of growing up with a “bossy” older sister in charge of every game, activity, and birthday candle.  You middle children know what I’m talking about… :) She is extremely extroverted, a gifted communicator, and one of the strongest people I know!  And she is also a great wife.  But often I see wives with these strengths and personalities run over their husbands.  Sometimes unintentionally!  We don’t want to become shy with our gifts and ignore who we are, but we also want to be submissive.  This balance is tough for anyone to learn, but it can be even harder when we are natural leaders.  From the outside, it’s obvious that Ashley and Josh’s marriage employs each of their Biblical roles while still maintaining who they are as individuals.  Ashley may be a strong person, but my brother-in-law is definitely the head of their family!  So here’s some advice and stories my sister shares from the inside of their marriage… [Read more…]