The Divorce Rate and Reality

New study can bring hope and encouragement to your marriageMost of us know the sobering statistic that about half of all marriages end in divorce.  For many church goers, they also know that the divorce rate is the same outside the church as in the church.

But I came across some research this week that discovered something very different (and really important): those statistics are NOT TRUE.  They aren’t the correct, accurate picture of what’s going on in marriage!  That’s good news for couples facing discouragement when they are deciding if getting married or staying married is even worth it.  It’s good news to know that most marriages are actually working!  And it’s even greater to know that attending church (and the life change that Jesus can bring) is statistically proven to increase your marriage’s chance of survival.

Here are the numbers:

  • Of all the people who have ever married, 72% are still married to their first spouse.  That comes from the Census Bureau.
  • The 50% statistic commonly heard is just a prediction, and a prediction that has been countered with other numbers.
  • Church attendance can reduce your chance of divorce by anywhere from 25-50%.

Doesn’t it feel good to know that your marriage isn’t fighting against statistical odds to survive?  A statistic can never substitute the difficult relational work required from both spouses, but it should give you encouragement to know divorce is not the inevitable end for most couples.  The truth is, most people struggle, and most people get through it!

Just this May a new marriage book was released –  The Good News About Marriage, by Shaunti Feldhahn.  I just found an article she wrote that unveils this topic.  She cites her study of marriage and divorce statistics that you will be blown away by in her article “Everything We Think We Know About Marriage And Divorce Is Wrong.”  Check it out to see more research about marriage stats.

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  1. I love Shaunti’s books and I didn’t know this was being released, Jo. Thanks for the heads up! I know I’ve heard the statistic about how a couple that prays together stays together somewhere along the line. I’ll have to see if I can find where that was! But yes, I agree, wholeheartedly that seeking God will bless and heal our marriages Great post!


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