Can You Marry Too Young?

The difficulties of getting married young and the rewards.  Is it worth it?I remember the week Ben asked me to be his girlfriend.  I was like a giddy little kid!  But this was different than most college romances – Ben was very upfront about his intentions and treated our relationship with the seriousness it deserved.  And a little over a year later, we were married!

Becoming a wife at the young age of 22, I hear comments that make me feel I have to explain our choice to marry young.  Some people think it’s strange. . .making a commitment for life before even getting a college diploma!  Society seems to [Read more…]

Are You Paying Attention?

This post is part of the Choosing Him book release blog tour.   I am joining author Juana Mikels and other inspiring Christian bloggers. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE!

Are You Paying Attention?  What my bad habits with technology were communicating to my spouseA few weeks back, Ben and I were spending time together one evening.  He wasn’t talking to me, and had started watching ESPN on the tablet.  I thought we were trying to enjoy being together, so I was a little upset that a basketball game had made an entrance into our evening.  So I asked Ben, “Is everything alright?  Are you doing okay?  Are we okay?” 

To which he replied [Read more…]

Why I Check Up On My Husband

Should you check in with your spouse everyday?  Article about communicate from realmarriedlife.comBen and I contact each other at some point throughout the day – everyday.

It’s not that I feel the need to be nosy.  And it’s not that I have to know what he’s doing at every given moment.  Here’s what it is… It’s important for us to hear from each other and feel connected even when we’re apart.  It’s part of how we continually build our friendship and marriage.  Here’s a few ways that we find this to be beneficial: [Read more…]

Quit Asking Your Spouse How Their Day Was

Stop Asking Your Spouse How Their Day WasAfter a day apart, the first thing Ben and I ask each other when we get home is “How was your day?”  I’ve missed him all day long and can’t wait to be together!  I’m sure most of you do the same.  But lately we’re learning that’s the wrong question to ask… It’s not often [Read more…]

Am I A Good Wife?

Reminders about what actually makes us a good spouse | Marriage thoughts from realmarriedlife.comEarly this morning, Ben and I had such a sweet time talking – coffee for him, hot tea for me.  We were reminiscing, sharing funny thoughts. . . it was one of those great mornings together before we rushed off to start the day.  As we were talking, Ben told me I was a good wife.  What a wonderfully sweet thing to say.

It should have put a smile on my face to receive such a compliment from him – the only qualified judge of that.  But it didn’t.  I started to tear up and told him I didn’t believe him.  And I really didn’t.  I just felt guilty.  I told him of all the things around the house I hadn’t finished, the chores I was behind on, the things I hadn’t accomplished, the lack of time I had to focus on doing stuff for him – all qualifying me as a “bad wife.”

Have you ever felt like that?  That your success or failure all depends on [Read more…]

Marriage Tips After 19 Kids

Duggar Family Marriage LessonsRecently, Ben and I have been watching seasons of 19 Kids and Counting.  I love that family!  They are so different from other families in such a uniquely strange and attractive way.  In the way the treat each other, deal with difficult decisions, keep purity as a family goal, and the loving climate of their home, they are a family worth learning from.  It’s rare today for families to enjoy each other that much and have parents still in love and committed to each other.

What we have watched from this wonderful family has inspired our marriage and the way we want our home to feel.  I think the biggest take-aways deal with the emotional climate and environment of what a home can look like.   [Read more…]