Submitting When You Are A Natural Leader – Pt 2

Submission series from realmarriedlife.com | Interviews, stories, and ways to enjoy your role as a wife.I have loved collecting stories about what it means to be a submissive wife this summer!  This is part two of the series.  Last time, Jenny gave 5 ways to submit to your husband that reflect the Biblical model.  This week, I’ve asked my older sister Ashley to share.  As adults we are great friends and love to spend time together!  But I still sing my sad song of growing up with a “bossy” older sister in charge of every game, activity, and birthday candle.  You middle children know what I’m talking about… :) She is extremely extroverted, a gifted communicator, and one of the strongest people I know!  And she is also a great wife.  But often I see wives with these strengths and personalities run over their husbands.  Sometimes unintentionally!  We don’t want to become shy with our gifts and ignore who we are, but we also want to be submissive.  This balance is tough for anyone to learn, but it can be even harder when we are natural leaders.  From the outside, it’s obvious that Ashley and Josh’s marriage employs each of their Biblical roles while still maintaining who they are as individuals.  Ashley may be a strong person, but my brother-in-law is definitely the head of their family!  So here’s some advice and stories my sister shares from the inside of their marriage… [Read more…]

5 Ways To Submit To Your Husband

This is a guest post from my friend Jenny in the Summer Submission Series, which I kicked off last week.  She blogs at jennycupido.com, writing about relationships, parenting, and faith. In the past, she shared on Real Married Life about getting married at age 19.  Jenny and her husband Tyron live in England and have four kids.  She has some great advice for wives about how submission can bring peace to our homes and joy in our marriages!

 

5 Ways to Submit | realmarriedlife.comIt may come as a surprise to you to hear that the word ‘submit’ is a verb.  And verbs mean action.  We have to get ourselves into the action of submitting to our husbands, not just thinking it!  So to give you some really straight up practical ideas of what we can actually ‘do’ I’m going to share 5 ways to submit to your husband on a daily basis.

I am one of those people who always comes up with the perfect response, solution, answer about a day or two AFTER the [Read more…]

Introducing… The S Word

Submission series from realmarriedlife.com | Interviews, stories, and ways to enjoy your role as a wife.I’m having a season of life where God is teaching me so many lessons. Often I find myself journaling, trying to extract the lessons I’m supposed to be learning in hopes I don’t miss them. My head is spinning most days trying to keep up with everything! It seems every aspect of my life is under painful refinement right now. My relationship with God. My eating and health habits. My identity issues. My relationships with family and friends. My role as a mom. And certainly my marriage. [Read more…]

Elliot and Elisabeth

In Elliot’s nursery, there hangs a wall of artwork: quotes from one of the most committed Christian women of our time.  They challenge me, renew my perspective, and convict me over and over.  This woman showed us what trusting God looked like in the midst of great trials and living with great peace that only comes from above.

Her name [Read more…]

Real Family Life

Wow!  It has been a long time since I’ve been on here! Life has been in such a weird season for us, and I’ve just felt like I’ve been stuck in a tunnel. At some point I’ll share more about my postpartum journey, but for now I’ll just say we haven’t had the easiest go at this baby-makes-three thing. Between health issues for me and baby (all able to be dealt with and nothing life threatening, thankfully!), being a first time mom is nothing like what I expected.  It’s hard and I haven’t enjoyed most of it to be honest.

But over the last weeks, I had made some resolutions. And I’ve gained some great perspective about what being a mom is. And what it isn’t. [Read more…]

On The Back Burner

There will always be some aspect of life that doesn’t get the attention it needs.  Things that stay on “the back burner”.  Finishing a book, organizing the hall closet, exercise, etc.  If you’re normal, you have plenty of projects that you can’t get to.  I know I do!

Recently, something very important has made its way to that position of low priority and attention.  We haven’t been able to give it the time and focus it deserves.

It’s our marriage.

So many demands – like piles of dishes, cooking, laundry, a crying baby, work, sleep – were all taking our time.  None of them seemed like something that could be ignored, so “us time” got pushed out.  To the back burner.  Honestly, it’s just one of those seasons where time with my husband is hard to come by.  And we were desperately struggling from the lack of time together.

So this Sunday afternoon, we did something that should drive every clean-freak, organized, get-everything-done, don’t-rest-until-it’s finished kind of person crazy.  We walked out on the huge piles of laundry and dishes (probably the biggest we have ever had!) and chose to sit on the couch in our pjs and watch a movie together.  I’ll admit it was a bit hard to completely focus – the kitchen was a disaster and I had no idea if Ben would have clean clothes for work the next day.  But for that afternoon, all the things that seemed so important just had to move to the back burner.  Spending time together was the biggest priority.

What about you?

Is your marriage getting all the attention and effort it deserves?  What is something in your life that can be dealt with later so you can focus on your marriage for a bit?

Remember that there are always tasks that won’t be completed, and that’s okay.  Sometimes there aren’t enough hours in the day.  Just make sure you have your priorities in the right order.  It won’t matter if your list is checked off when your heart is empty.  Keep your marriage off the back burner!