On The Back Burner

There will always be some aspect of life that doesn’t get the attention it needs.  Things that stay on “the back burner”.  Finishing a book, organizing the hall closet, exercise, etc.  If you’re normal, you have plenty of projects that you can’t get to.  I know I do!

Recently, something very important has made its way to that position of low priority and attention.  We haven’t been able to give it the time and focus it deserves.

It’s our marriage.

So many demands – like piles of dishes, cooking, laundry, a crying baby, work, sleep – were all taking our time.  None of them seemed like something that could be ignored, so “us time” got pushed out.  To the back burner.  Honestly, it’s just one of those seasons where time with my husband is hard to come by.  And we were desperately struggling from the lack of time together.

So this Sunday afternoon, we did something that should drive every clean-freak, organized, get-everything-done, don’t-rest-until-it’s finished kind of person crazy.  We walked out on the huge piles of laundry and dishes (probably the biggest we have ever had!) and chose to sit on the couch in our pjs and watch a movie together.  I’ll admit it was a bit hard to completely focus – the kitchen was a disaster and I had no idea if Ben would have clean clothes for work the next day.  But for that afternoon, all the things that seemed so important just had to move to the back burner.  Spending time together was the biggest priority.

What about you?

Is your marriage getting all the attention and effort it deserves?  What is something in your life that can be dealt with later so you can focus on your marriage for a bit?

Remember that there are always tasks that won’t be completed, and that’s okay.  Sometimes there aren’t enough hours in the day.  Just make sure you have your priorities in the right order.  It won’t matter if your list is checked off when your heart is empty.  Keep your marriage off the back burner!

Can You Marry Too Young?

The difficulties of getting married young and the rewards.  Is it worth it?I remember the week Ben asked me to be his girlfriend.  I was like a giddy little kid!  But this was different than most college romances – Ben was very upfront about his intentions and treated our relationship with the seriousness it deserved.  And a little over a year later, we were married!

Becoming a wife at the young age of 22, I hear comments that make me feel I have to explain our choice to marry young.  Some people think it’s strange. . .making a commitment for life before even getting a college diploma!  Society seems to [Read more…]

10 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Me

10 Things You Didn't Know About Me from Jo of realmarriedlife.comThis week’s post is part of a blog hop where I’m joining with other bloggers to share 10 things you may not have known about us, just to get to know each blogger better.  There are some great blogs on this list to check out!

Last week, my friend Jenny Cupido shared her list on her blog about marriage, motherhood, and faith.  This week is my turn!

 

Ten Things You Didn’t Know About Jo… [Read more…]

Are You Paying Attention?

This post is part of the Choosing Him book release blog tour.   I am joining author Juana Mikels and other inspiring Christian bloggers. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE!

Are You Paying Attention?  What my bad habits with technology were communicating to my spouseA few weeks back, Ben and I were spending time together one evening.  He wasn’t talking to me, and had started watching ESPN on the tablet.  I thought we were trying to enjoy being together, so I was a little upset that a basketball game had made an entrance into our evening.  So I asked Ben, “Is everything alright?  Are you doing okay?  Are we okay?” 

To which he replied [Read more…]

Top Posts of 2014

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The year is almost over, so get ready to say hello to 2015!  Here is the year at Real Married Life in review with the top 5 most viewed posts of the year. [Read more…]

Favorite Things for a Newborn

Must Have Items for a Newborn:  My favorite baby thingsEven though we’re still very new parents (right at 3 months), I would love to share my favorite newborn baby items – a few unconventional.  These would make great Christmas presents if you need ideas!

Here are the top 20 things I recommend.  However, don’t make this one more thing to feel guilty about!  You’re actually not allowed to read the list unless you read my letter to new moms.  But once you do, this list may be helpful.  I know I run the risk of being more advice to confuse you, but I also want to pass along these because without someone telling me about them, I would never have known! [Read more…]