Am I A Good Wife?

Reminders about what actually makes us a good spouse | Marriage thoughts from realmarriedlife.comEarly this morning, Ben and I had such a sweet time talking – coffee for him, hot tea for me.  We were reminiscing, sharing funny thoughts. . . it was one of those great mornings together before we rushed off to start the day.  As we were talking, Ben told me I was a good wife.  What a wonderfully sweet thing to say.

It should have put a smile on my face to receive such a compliment from him – the only qualified judge of that.  But it didn’t.  I started to tear up and told him I didn’t believe him.  And I really didn’t.  I just felt guilty.  I told him of all the things around the house I hadn’t finished, the chores I was behind on, the things I hadn’t accomplished, the lack of time I had to focus on doing stuff for him – all qualifying me as a “bad wife.”

Have you ever felt like that?  That your success or failure all depends on [Read more...]

Marriage Tips After 19 Kids

Duggar Family Marriage LessonsRecently, Ben and I have been watching seasons of 19 Kids and Counting.  I love that family!  They are so different from other families in such a uniquely strange and attractive way.  In the way the treat each other, deal with difficult decisions, keep purity as a family goal, and the loving climate of their home, they are a family worth learning from.  It’s rare today for families to enjoy each other that much and have parents still in love and committed to each other.

What we have watched from this wonderful family has inspired our marriage and the way we want our home to feel.  I think the biggest take-aways deal with the emotional climate and environment of what a home can look like.   [Read more...]

The Divorce Rate and Reality

New study can bring hope and encouragement to your marriageMost of us know the sobering statistic that about half of all marriages end in divorce.  For many church goers, they also know that the divorce rate is the same outside the church as in the church.

But I came across some research this week that discovered something very different (and really important): those statistics are NOT TRUE.  They aren’t the correct, accurate picture of what’s going on in marriage!  That’s good news for couples facing [Read more...]

Baby Girl On The Way!

Baby announcement and gender reveal for realmarriedlife.comA few months ago, Ben and I bought our first home, and now we have another exciting announcement!  We are expecting our first child – a little girl!  We are so excited for her due date – the end of [Read more...]

You Might Be a Drama Queen If…

You Might Be A Drama Queen If... Help for marriages from realmarriedlife.comIn our relationships, it’s important to recognize what they thrive on.  For many, life is most satisfying in the midst of excitement and adventure!  This kind of person brings a lot of joy and energy to those around them.  They are always searching for variety in life (trying new food, vacations, fun competition, new family traditions, sight-seeing, etc.) to keep the relationship from getting stale or boring.  They have a very passionate marriage because [Read more...]

Lessons Learned No Other Way

Getting through the tough seasons in your marriage by treasuring the lessons learned togetherThe last couple of months, Ben and I have felt like we’re moving through life and everything is just happening to us.  Do you know what I mean?  It feels like there’s way too much going on and too little that we’re in control of.  Knowing us, our normal life is fairly structured, planned, and has down time when we need it.  It’s predictable and we like it.  But to be honest, 2014 has been tough.  Not planned, not predictable, and lots to worry about.

But just over the last couple of weeks, [Read more...]