The Right Fight

The Right Fight - how the armor of God impacts our marriageBen and I are fighting.  The last several months, it’s gone to a new level.

While God is healing me – soul and spirit – we feel a constant strain and struggle.  But the enemy isn’t one another.

I wrote about lessons God has taught me over the past couple of years.  But I also wanted to share what our specific spiritual journey has been lately.  God has pulled us up from the pit and restored us, but it hasn’t been easy.  We are learning to [Read more…]

Moving Mountains: Reflections on 2014 & 2015

Moving Mountains: Reflections on life's trials from realmarriedlife.comIt’s been a couple of tough years. 2014 and 2015 feel like a blurry fog.  Pregnancy was extremely difficult – I’d say that’s when things got tough.  And then when our daughter was born, I started experienced struggles in every area:  with her health, depression, anxiety, anger, paranoia, marriage, spiritual struggles.  Our incredible and relatively “charmed life” turned into one I didn’t feel like living most days.  It was as if there were mountains in front of me that wouldn’t move.

But over [Read more…]

Real Pregnant Life

Pregnancy lessons and confessions | realmarriedlife.comTwo years ago, I spent the afternoon on Valentine’s weekend watching sitcoms with Ben – from a hospital bed.  I was pregnant and so sick I couldn’t keep water down. That was my first of a few ER trips for hyperemesis gravidarum.  I continue to get sick until 30 weeks, and I was nauseous every single day.  I would say that marked the start of a really tough journey for me.  Yes, there was [Read more…]

When The Wind Blows…

When the Wind Blows... Putting down roots in your marriage during hard times. realmarriedlife.comMarriage.  It’s different than I thought it would be.  It’s way better than I expected!  But in a way that is more full and rich – certainly not easier or less work.  Marriage can be hard.

Somehow in my early 20s, I pictured marriage as a lifelong slumber party. Fun with your best friend always by your side. It can be at times, but let’s face it [Read more…]

Replacing Gluttony

gluttonyI really don’t know where to start with this… And this will be really hard and embarrassing.  Food is a huge struggle for me – I really don’t want to admit my idolatry. But I have the feeling many others are stuck here too. So I guess I will start at the beginning of my story.

My whole life, I have loved food and struggled with maintaining a healthy weight.  One of my Mom’s most terrifying moments as a parent involves a story of losing me as a toddler [Read more…]

Replacing Entitlement

ReplacementHonesty from a wife and mom's struggles.Playing with our 12 month old, I can count on one thing: Entitlement.  It doesn’t matter how exciting/age-appropriate/expensive the toy in her hand may be, whatever I’m holding (my spoon/paper/cup) is more attractive.  And if she’s denied, a mini-tantrum may follow – complete with squinted face and flapping arms.

When I’m in good humor, it makes me chuckle. But most times [Read more…]